Would You Rather Questions for Couples: 70 Funny, Romantic, Deep and Flirty Picks

Would you rather questions for couples work best when both options are good (or both are terrible), so the choice says something about the person picking. Take turns: one of you asks, both answer at the same time, then each explains why in one sentence. Start funny, move to romantic and deep, and save flirty ones for later in the evening. Below: 70 questions in seven groups and how to play.

How to play would you rather as a couple

• Answer at the same time. Count to three and say A or B together, so nobody copies the other.
• Always ask "why?" One sentence each. That's the part that turns a silly question into a real conversation.
• Raise the stakes slowly. Funny → romantic → deep → flirty works better than starting with the hard ones.

Funny would you rather questions for couples

• Would you rather always have to sing instead of speak, or dance every time you hear music?
• Would you rather share a toothbrush or share socks for a month?
• Would you rather have me narrate your life out loud or have a laugh track follow you around?
• Would you rather only eat my cooking for a year or only eat airport food?
• Would you rather be stuck in a lift with my parents or your ex?
• Would you rather lose your phone for a week or lose your sense of taste for a day?
• Would you rather have a pet that talks or a fridge that judges your snacks?
• Would you rather we only communicate in voice notes or only in emojis for a week?
• Would you rather sneeze every time you lie or hiccup every time you flirt?
• Would you rather have my laugh or my sense of direction?

Romantic would you rather questions

• Would you rather get breakfast in bed every Sunday or a surprise date once a month?
• Would you rather receive a handwritten letter or a playlist made just for you?
• Would you rather relive our first date or skip ahead to our 10th anniversary for a day?
• Would you rather slow dance in the kitchen or watch the sunrise together?
• Would you rather have a weekend in a cabin with no signal or a weekend in a city hotel?
• Would you rather I plan every date or we take turns?
• Would you rather have a song that's "ours" or a place that's "ours"?
• Would you rather get a long hug or a forehead kiss after a bad day?
• Would you rather renew our promises every year or keep one big moment forever?
• Would you rather a surprise trip or a surprise party?

Deep would you rather questions for couples

• Would you rather always know exactly what I'm thinking or never have to guess how I feel?
• Would you rather we argue openly or go quiet and talk later?
• Would you rather have a big wedding and less savings, or a tiny one and a house deposit?
• Would you rather live near your family or near mine?
• Would you rather we have more money or more free time?
• Would you rather be loved for who you are now or for who you're becoming?
• Would you rather hear a hard truth from me or a kind white lie?
• Would you rather move abroad together or build a life in our hometown?
• Would you rather always say sorry first or always be the one who's forgiven?
• Would you rather know how our story ends or be surprised?

When a deep one lands, stay on it. Our list of questions to ask your partner has follow-ups for exactly that moment.

Flirty would you rather questions

• Would you rather kiss in the rain or kiss under a blanket of stars?
• Would you rather I wear your hoodie or you wear my favourite shirt?
• Would you rather get a flirty text at work or a voice note at midnight?
• Would you rather cuddle all morning or stay up all night talking?
• Would you rather I whisper something sweet or something cheeky?
• Would you rather a long massage or a long make-out session?
• Would you rather we dress up for a date at home or go out in pyjamas?
• Would you rather I compliment your smile or your style?
• Would you rather be the big spoon or the little spoon forever?
• Would you rather a slow kiss goodbye or a surprise kiss hello?

Would you rather questions about the future

• Would you rather have a dog or a cat together?
• Would you rather live in a tiny flat in the city or a big house in the countryside?
• Would you rather retire early or travel the world in your 30s?
• Would you rather one big holiday a year or lots of weekends away?
• Would you rather we host every holiday or never host at all?
• Would you rather share every bank account or keep some money separate?
• Would you rather renovate an old house or buy a finished one?
• Would you rather we learn a language together or an instrument?
• Would you rather a garden full of vegetables or full of flowers?
• Would you rather have our family Sunday tradition be brunch or a long walk?

Long-distance would you rather questions

• Would you rather a daily good-morning text or a weekly long call?
• Would you rather a FaceTime date in pyjamas or a dressed-up virtual dinner?
• Would you rather an airport reunion hug or a doorstep surprise?
• Would you rather watch the same film at the same time or play a game online together?
• Would you rather get a care package or a plane ticket?
• Would you rather fall asleep on a call or wake up to a voice note?
• Would you rather count down the days or not know until the last minute?
• Would you rather send letters or send photos every day?
• Would you rather visit me or I visit you?
• Would you rather close the distance in a year with less money or in three years with savings?

More ideas for couples who live apart in our long-distance couple games guide.

Hard would you rather questions for couples

• Would you rather read all my old texts or let me read all of yours?
• Would you rather know every person I've had a crush on or never know any?
• Would you rather give up your favourite hobby or your favourite food for me?
• Would you rather lose all your photos of us or all your memories of the first year?
• Would you rather fight every week and make up, or never fight but never really talk?
• Would you rather be with me in a boring life or apart in an exciting one?
• Would you rather I be brutally honest or always kind?
• Would you rather we swap phones for a day or swap jobs for a week?
• Would you rather move for my dream job or have me turn it down for us?
• Would you rather know the day we'll have our biggest fight or the day we'll be happiest?

Play it on your phones with Closerly

Reading from a list works, but the game is better when you can't see each other's answer before you pick. Closerly, our couples app for Android and iPhone, has a This or That game built exactly like would you rather: two options on screen, both partners choose, then you see where you matched. It has six decks from Soft and Deep to Tease, Spicy, Wild and Intense, with over 500 pairs in total, and it sits next to Truth or Dare, Never Have I Ever and a couples quiz. The Soft deck is free to try; the full decks come with Premium, and in a shared room one partner's Premium covers you both. More in our date night games for couples at home.

Common questions

What are good would you rather questions for couples?
Ones where both options are tempting, like "breakfast in bed every Sunday or a surprise date once a month?". They make you explain your choice, which is how you learn something new about your partner.

How do you play would you rather with your partner?
Take turns asking, answer at the same time, and explain each pick in one sentence. Start with funny questions and move to romantic, deep and flirty ones.

What are deep would you rather questions for couples?
Questions about money, family, conflict and the future, such as "Would you rather live near your family or mine?" or "Would you rather hear a hard truth or a kind white lie?".

Is there an app for would you rather for couples?
Yes. Closerly has a This or That game for couples with six decks, from Soft to Intense, where both partners pick and then see if they matched. The Soft deck is free to try; the full decks are part of Premium.